i was engaged by 21...

after reading something that was posted on my facebook wall numerous times today, 
i decided to take a stand on what i believe in when it comes to engagements and marriage. 

this post really made me think. i was engaged by 21. but why is that so wrong? 
our parents were married by 19! i get that the divorce rate is sky rocketing out of this world, but does that mean we all have to stay away from each other and not date and *gasp* fall in love?!

i come from a broken home, my dad walked out on my family when i was 13. i thought i would never get married. but look at me now...planning my wedding at 26. 

i get that people are sick of seeing "omgah i'm engageddddd look at my finger, the rock is as huge as a small puppy, he lovezzz meeeee" but you don't have to lump all of those people into one group. 

i was one who posted on facebook, i was ecstatic. 
but the list that the girl who wrote that post really made me laugh. 

i did most of those on that list before i hit 21.

1. Get a passport. 
okay, yeah, i didn't do that, but i moved to san francisco alone at 21. does that count?
2. Find your “thing.”
i did, it's fabulous. #socialmedia
3. Make out with a stranger.
ummmm, did it....a lot. then i met beardy. i'm happier kissing someone where i know where he's been. 
4. Adopt a pet.
warhol was adopted before i was engaged. best adoption ever. 
5. Start a band.
how about tour with a band? i did that. it was beyond amazing.
6. Make a cake. Make a second cake. Have your cake and eat it too.
i burnt many cakes. now i go to starbucks...or make beardy make it. 
7. Get a tattoo. It’s more permanent than a marriage.
i have 8.
8. Explore a new religion.
i was always open to others opinions. going to the grace cathedral in san francisco was life changing.
9. Start a small business.
one thing i didn't try to attempt.
10.Cut your hair.
see 2005, 2006, 2007. 
11. Date two people at once and see how long it takes to blow up in your face.
does it count if he dated two people at once and i blew up in his face? 
12. Build something with your hands.
many a lego building has been built with these hands.
13. Accomplish a Pinterest project.
14. Join the Peace Corps.
15. Disappoint your parents.
pretty sure getting engaged disappointed my mom. 
16. Watch GIRLS, over and over again.
so hard to look away...
17. Eat a jar of Nutella in one sitting.
did this multiple times in san francisco...it was a right of passage.
18. Make strangers feel uncomfortable in public places.
it's called riding on an elevator. 
19. Sign up for CrossFit.
how about pole classes? 
20. Hangout naked in front of a window.
i had a few of these people as neighbors in the city. i can't say i haven't walked around my apartment naked. 
21. Write your feelings down in a blog.
i wonder what i have been doing all along...
22. Be selfish.
i was a fashion major for three years. i think that comes with the territory. 

  i feel accomplished. yes, i was engaged before i was 23, but i feel like i didn't miss out on anything. i feel like my life only got better meeting him. i may not be single, enjoying the "prime" of my life, but i feel like i am not searching for a companion a la carrie bradshaw and i am okay with that. 

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